Yesterday we had a meeting with the A-Team [well that's what I call them] at Lifehouse; Dr Bahdri, Kristyn, Dr Stalley, Dr Panos and Sue. The Radiologist; whose name has left me completely for the moment, was also there and she seemed lovely. It was a meeting that instilled confidence in both Brendan and I in the choice that we have made moving forward. It was also a meeting full of compassion shown by all; but especially doctors Bahdri and Stalley, who I know have had to sit down with others in the same or similar circumstance far too many times before. And there was a waiting room full of people for them to see after we left.
So next week will see a whole new world open up to us, as we are introduced to many new people that will help Bren adjust to life as an amputee. Yesterday as he filled out the paper work at pre admissions and had to write the answer to the "What are you having done?" question, set the reality wheels in motion. I wondered as he filled in the answer: "Right leg amputation due to cancer related disease," had the administrators; who set the forms out, ever wondered what that might feel like for a patient to write those words down?
So Tuesday is the day, and we are as ready as you can be for something that I never imagined in my wildest dreams that I would be helping to prepare my husband for. This is all made more bearable knowing that our family; friends and a whole community; #teambrendanm stand beside us.
It won’t be long until we are out and about; going about our business, among you all again and I can't wait. I know how strange it may feel to see Brendan, especially for the first time, without his leg; and you may feel awkward, and so might we. With none of us knowing what to say or do. And that's OK.
These are the things that may come the easiest if words are hard to find; a smile, a wave, to shake hands where possible, a pat on the back, a hug. Whatever feels comfortable at the time and a "it's good to see ya out an about mate" is perfect....if it's talk like a pirate day, you have to say that with a pirates accent though, because talk like a pirate day has always been one of our favourites.
And in the wise words of Toby Marteene, one of Brendan’s littlest mates..."Brendan still has his head and his heart so he is still the same cool Brendan he always was."
And that my amazing friends is the simple truth. Thank you Toby for expressing it so perfectly xx
We are again on the road to wellness, look out RPA, here we come!